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Organized Chaos. A storm calmed by the King. Daughter of the best Abba. ♥ I write because it's my way of expressing what I couldn't say out loud.

Friday, May 31, 2013

20's (Repost)


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Our 20s are extremely important, formative years of our lives. It is primarily the time where we transition into adulthood. All of the habits and things we achieve in this time period are sure to be the foundation for the years to come. Many people use this time as an excuse to act reckless with the idea that they can turn things around when they get older.

Although there are such things as second opportunities, you must understand that with the growing level of global competition, your chances for a second opportunity greatly decrease. Instead of wasting your 20s being drunk and partying, it will be more beneficial for you to actually start getting your life together.
Being 20 and young is no longer a valid excuse to do what you want. Life doesn’t get any easier and it is crucial that you use this time to position yourself in order to give yourself a competitive advantage in the future.

Our 30s can be very successful, or a complete failure, all depending on what we learn and how much effort we put in during our 20s. Here is a list of 20 accomplishments and lessons that we ought to learn before we begin the fourth decade of our lives.
  • 20. Let go of the past and look forward to the future.
By the age of 29, there will be many things that you will accomplish and there will be things that you failed at. You must learn to let go of your failures and learn from them. You must not think about what you could have or should have done, but rather what you will do next. The 30s are the new 20s, so get your shit together and make something of the next decade!
  • 19. Accept that you are an adult.
By the time that you reach 27 years of age there should be no doubt in your mind that you have reached adulthood. This is the time to accept that you are an adult and that it is time to act like one. This does not necessarily mean to tone down your crazy escapades, but it may. In your 20s you need to come to terms with being your own master and taking responsibility for your decisions and your life.
  • 18. Learn to maintain and keep your environment organized.
Your personal home environment very much reflects who you are as a person, who you are inside. If your surroundings are hectic, you are likely to feel inner tension. If your surroundings are neat and peaceful, your mind most likely experiences the same peace. If you want to find and maintain peace, then you must manifest your inner peace in your outer surroundings.
  • 17. Learn to maintain your body.17. Learn to maintain your body.
Exercise is important. And so are all the grooming tasks that a person should learn to maintain throughout the years. Looking tidy, organized and well trimmed becomes more and more important the older you become. You may not feel the need to trim those nose hairs now, but you will when you are 50. This goes for both men and women.
  • 16. Learn to dress well.
People judge you on how you look and how you dress. Wearing the right clothing for each occasion will make whatever you wish to accomplish a bit easier — in the very least it will only work to your benefit and not against you as would dressing poorly or inappropriately. Women need to learn how to wear dresses and walk in heels (walk, not waddle) and men should get comfortable in a suit. No matter who you are, there will be at the very least several times that you will need to dress to impress.
  • 15. Start to accumulate a fortune.
I don’t know about all of you, but I plan on being a billionaire. If you are to become a billionaire, you will have to become a millionaire first. Hit that first million by 30 and your first billion by 40.
  • 14. Learn to adapt.
We must all embrace change — the sooner the better. Change occurs constantly and unless we learn to change along with it, we will get left behind. Sticking to the ways of the past finds you living a life unfit for reality, but rather fit for a time that once was. The longer you wait to embrace change, the more difficult it will be to change your ways and habits.
  • 13. Outline your perfect partner.
Some believe that it’s best to leave love to chance or fate. I, on the other hand, believe that loving is a decision and not some completely random, unexplainable concept. You may not be able to find a woman that matches your dream woman 100%, but you should have a good idea of what you do want in a partner and what you don’t want — as well as how important each characteristic or lack of is to you.
  • 12. Reestablish your connection with your family.
Keeping on good terms with your family is important — if possible, of course. I understand that not everyone is allotted the luxury of good parents, but for those of us that were ought to try to keep in touch as much as possible. Even if you were never much of a family person, as I wasn’t, if you plan on having a family of your own one day, you’ll want to be adding onto an already solid family tree.
  • 11. Surround yourself with people that you would like to keep around.
Having close friends are important. Building a trusting relationship with someone takes years, so it’s best to get crackin’. Do people make new friends in their 30s?
  • 10. Find work that you love doing.
The key is to do what you love and love what you do. If your work doesn’t give meaning to your life, which honor may very well be reserved for your friends and family, then it must at the very least not make your life more unpleasant. The perfect job is out there for you. Figure out what that is while your age still starts with the number 2. Once you hit 30, it will be more difficult to get hired without any previous experience.
  • 9. Get that body you always dreamed of.
Getting into shape gets harder the older you get. I know you planned on starting your diet tomorrow, but before you know it you’ll be turning 70 tomorrow. Have you ever tried to get into shape for the first time at 70? Me neither, but it must suck.
  • 8. Learn to keep up to date with current events.
There is a world outside you that goes beyond that which you see and do. There are other people on this planet — people that you share a common bond with. Knowing what the human race is doing — all the good and all the awful — is an important part of understanding life. Knowing what is going on overseas may help you better understand why you are experiencing what you yourself are experiencing. If you haven’t learned to read a newspaper regularly — cough cough, Elitedaily.com — then you should get used to doing so before you hit 30.
  • 7. Learn to read regularly.
Learning is not just something that you do while in school. Human beings should never stop learning. We were blessed with intellect superior to all other animals and we would be failing to live up to our abilities were we to allow our minds to become stale and slow. We need to keep our minds fit and perform mental exercises. One of the best ways is to read every day.
  • 6. Clearly outline your life goals.
Your 20s are a time to figure out which direction you wish your life to go. What goals do you wish to accomplish and what steps will you take to get there? This the time to define what is most important to you and to promise yourself that you will do all you can to attain all that you wish for.
  • 5. Get out of debt.
Before you can save money or create wealth, you first must get yourself out of debt. Debt not only grows as the years go by, it also gets heavier on your mind. The stress of having a debt hanging over your head will give you is too much distraction from what is important.
  • 4. Begin to put money in the bank and learn to leave it there.
There are much more lucrative, albeit riskier ways of investing your money. Putting your money into the bank, however, is a good practice to learn. It is always good to have a bit of funds on hand for an emergency. You should be able to put some savings away in your 20s.
  • 3. Date the wrong person(s).
I am a strong believer that in order to date the right person, you first have to date the wrong person. Otherwise you will always question whether or not you made the right decision by committing. Dating can be pricy, so you may just want to skip the dinner and just sleep around a bit.
  • 2. Get your own place.
Living with mom and dad is free and living with roomies can be fun. But everyone ought to live on their own for at least part of their life in order to better get to know themselves. If you’re lucky, you will fall in love and get married one day. Then the possibility of being alone becomes a distant memory — or a costly divorce.
  • 1. Support yourself.
Finally leaving the nest and flying on your own can be difficult at first — so I understand the reluctance. Nevertheless, there is no reason to be nearing your 30s and still living off mom and dad’s dime. If you can’t support yourself financially, then you have not learned how to survive. You must become a survivor.

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Patar, Bolinao - Untouched Paradise

Last May 24-26 some friends and I went on a side trip to Bolinao, Pangasinan. Originally the plan was to go all the way to the famous Pagudpud but due to circumstances beyond our control (e.g: friends who didn't pushed through with us. tsk! tsk!) we ended up in Bolinao.

But NO REGRETS!!! The place was beyond amazing!!!

Since what we really wanted was simply to unwind, have some break and a few days to relax from our busy worlds we still opt to head to the beach (that's actually just me talking there. SAND, SUN and WATER!) which we concluded was gonna be Bolinao. Relying on every info acquired and accumulated from the internet we packed our bags and head on to an adventure the town would offer.

A 6 hour bus ride from the city we reached the town of Bolinao at 5:30 in the morning. And based on the research done we had our breakfast at the highly recommended Adorra's. Spent a few minutes around St. James Church and then headed to the beach!

Good Morning Bolinao!!!


Lomi for my 1st vacation breakfast


St. James Church
Since Patar is the most popular beach in Pangasinan (We tried looking at the ones closer to town and I would have to say go directly to Patar!) we decided to simply spend most of our vacation time there. And lo and behold! The long beach shore is a hidden PARAISO!





For a not so adventure seeking traveler like me who is used to air-conditioned hotel rooms/pension houses don't expect to find one if you would choose to stay in the white beach of Patar. Staying there would mean camping up on your own tent or staying in room cottages (small bahay-kubo) which is a popular choice among the visitors of Patar. But staying without all the comfort I am used to when I travel is worth all the things I was able to enjoy in this vacation.

WHAT TO DO:

- Long walks in the morning enjoying the sand and the sound of the waves.
- Soak up in the Sun.
- Long walks in the late afternoon when the rock formation hidden on those blue-green water reveals itself.
- Take a dip on natural swimming pools that appears during low tide.
- Enjoy the colorful fishes/marine creatures without the snorkeling itinerary hassle. 
- And lastly, hold your breath for Patar's breath taking sunset.

You could also go and see the famous lighthouse, caves and other rock formations on nearby resorts.

Patar gave me a a few days of total escape from the hustle and bustle of city living. With the minimum coverage of telecommunication networks in the area I got totally lost on this untouched paradise.



The Jump Shot

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Highly recommended Room cottages:

Look for Julie Jimenez
 0998-424-10-07


Highly recommended place to eat:

Everything is MASARAP! *burp!*

Expenses:

Bus to and fro: (Five Star Bus) Pasay to Bolinao 469 php
(Five Star Bus) Bolinao to Cubao 459 php
Tricycle from Bolinao Bayan to Patar and back: (200 php x 2) 400 php
Room Cottage: (1500 php x 2 nights) 3000 php
Tour Tricycle: 200 php
Entrance Fees: 90 php (enchanted Cave)
Food: 500 php for the whole trip

Rough estimate: I spent more or less 3000 php for this whole trip. 
(There were 3 of us sharing transpo and accom costs.)

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Untitled 4/5/2013

The unexplainable leap of my heart when i see you. 
The instant joy you brought around you. 
The room is filled with your silent laughter. 
I looked into your eyes it brings me further. 

Your radiance fills any room you enter. 
You have with you a calm that isn't found anywhere. 
You listen and understand my silent whining. 
You encourage me on almost everything. 

I could spend a whole day just staring at you. 
I could spend hours just talking with you. 
I could not let a day pass without hearing from you. 
I would probably regret not knowing you. 

I can't explain this feeling. 
But I think I have an inkling. 
That this is the Love they're calling. 
Cause if it's not... 
If this isn't love, then I don't know where I'm heading.


#MeTalking


Friday, April 5, 2013

Hello Mr. Moon


"Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars." -Les Brown

This is one quote that got stuck on me ever since I heard it. It made me dream higher, aspire bigger and reminds me once in a while to never quit till I conquer.

As I grew older and learned some scientific explanation about the moon and the stars, it somehow sounded pathetic. Cause in reality, base on what science claim, each star is a lot bigger than the moon. Even our own Earth is bigger than it.

But in a dreamers perspective; looking up in the dark sky at night... wishing... dreaming... that round moon is the one casting the brightest glow.

I'm a big dreamer. I dream every time I could. I dream to get inspired. I dream to keep me going. I dream so that failure won't eat me up. It's something I hold on to when I feel like loosing my grip on something that I wanted badly.

Sometimes dreaming frustrates me; Getting my own car when I turn 18, be the top of the class, moving on my own place after graduation, getting my professional license, traveling around europe, falling in love with someone who would sweep me off my feet. Every time one dream doesn't happen is like a slap in the face to wake me up to face reality.

It's frustrating... It's heart breaking... But at the back of my head I know that I can't stop dreaming because it's something that fuels me to keep going. It's something that reminds me that after falling on my face; bruised, scratched, ashamed and ready to cry. The dream is the white ribbon ahead where the word "FINISH LINE" is. And that's what keeps me from dreaming. To hold tighter and never dare to loose my grip.

I'm currently somewhere in the stars. Probably jumping from one star to another trying to find my place. Taking my time as I loss myself on it's glow. I'm happy, I'm contented, I'm enjoying that somehow the glow is casting it's light on me. Filling me with hope, giving me some of it's brightness, just twinkling for me. But out there I still look up and search for the moon. Where all the big dreams that I haven't given up are. That beautiful round face which constantly smiles down on me.

Reach for the moon... And if you don't reach it and land among the stars... Hold on to your dream; the Moon... Don't settle and loss yourself on the small glow.

Monday, March 4, 2013

Old Crap.



Since I'm the confrontational type who deals with things my way... I wrote this for a "freinemy" way, way back. Sent it via FB Message after writing it down for less than 10 minutes of gathering my wits after learning so much crap. hahaha. I realized how a pang of anger allows my brain to organize my thoughts better. I'm not digging up skeletons nor opening old wounds here. I just want to save this "emotional outburst" which I now find amusing...


HEY YOU!
I won’t pretend I don’t know what you're talking about on your wall. I won’t even pretend I don’t know what the issues are. But I think you're going beyond the border.
Just to let you know I’m not referring to anyone on my wall. The last time I did that, I learned my lessons. And YES! I am referring about YOU on my wall posts before. I would disclose that now as I lay all my cards. But this time I don’t care about any issues or about anyone. 
Just so you would know, that “if someone is taken” status was a re-post from my twitter. I wasn’t referring to anyone. I was just re-posting thoughts of other person randomly. The person you're defending. Well, she’s my friend too as far as I know. And if she’s hurt by my post then it’s her issue not mine. My conscience is clean this time. I am very busy with my review classes that I don’t care about other peoples issues and insecurities because I have my own issues to deal with. I won’t even know about your post and won’t log-in just to message you if it wasn’t for people who seems to be stirred up by your post. 
Both of us got 2nd hand information. We both heard only one side so let’s not both pretend we know everything. I don’t like to be the center of attention. I’m happy with my LOW PROFILE and PRIVATE LIFE now. If you're happy being the center of everyones attention then don’t include me. 
I will answer your question. “KASALI KA BA?” I’m not! that’s why I’m not reacting and I’m dealing with MY LIFE! And now, let me ask you that question. “KASALI KA BA?” 
I haven’t reached that PERFECTION to be judgmental on anyone. I’m not perfect, I make faults and I’m just human to set standards on anyone. I make it a point to see myself on the mirror before putting a finger on anyone. Don’t stereotype me with the people you go around with. I’m far from being like them. I was raised in a good home where respect on each other is required. I am open minded enough for corrections and I’m not afraid to face the consequences of my actions. And when I make mistake I learn from them.
We are both old enough to know that devouring each other in FB wall won’t do us any good! WE could continue to answer each other back and say unpleasing words that would both hurt us. But that’s not my thing. I won’t sink down to that level ever again. We are both trying to live life happily. We both want peace as we walk in God’s plan for our lives.
I don’t want to live with negativity. If you're happy dealing with negativity in your life, then so be it! It’s you personal journey not mine. 
I end this “explanation” here. I’m fed up with all the negativity and cursing. It’s up to you how you would take it. And to be honest, I don’t really care anymore. You’ve heard my side. That’s enough for me. 
I say sorry if I hurt you once. But this time, I won’t say sorry to anyone because I wasn’t trying to tread on anyone. I let them deal with whatever concerns they have in their lives. I don’t interfere with their dilemmas. 
Just like what you where pointing out before. My FB WALL as well as my other social sites is my FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION. I might get to someone else’s nerve but I know that they get to someone else’s nerve too so it’s just fair for everyone. 
I might as well take your piece of advice. I think that’s the best option I have now…
PS. Cause I'm a bitch in my own way, I blocked the "freinemy" right after sending this message. I didn't care what it has to say. I moved on.

PSS. Past is past. I blog this to remind me to clear away from trouble in the future. =)

Friday, February 8, 2013

Wonder woman

I read this post shared rampantly in Facebook and I decided to share it here to inspire as well. Something to think about... Something to ponder upon...

Here's the story of an amazing woman from one of her classmates:

"The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze.

"Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked.

She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids..."

"No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

"I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.

Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium.

As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day.

You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old.

If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight.

Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.

The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose."

She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives.

At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.

Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be .When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it!

These words have been passed along in loving memory of Rose. Remember;

GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL."

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Responsibility...

I was watching Season 1 of Grey's Anatomy this morning (For the nth time!) and I just have to share this...

Episode Five: Shake Your Groove Thing

Meridith Grey Narrating: 

 
Opening:

Remember when you were a kid, and your biggest worry was, like, if you’d get a bike for your birthday, or if you’d get to eat cookies for breakfast? Being an adult? Totally overrated. I mean, seriously, don’t be fooled by all the hot shoes, and the great sex, and the no parents anywhere telling you what to do. Adulthood is responsibility.

Responsibility, it really does suck. Really, really sucks. Adults have to be places and do things and earn a living and pay the rent. And if you’re training to be a surgeon, holding a human heart in your hands… Hello! Talk about responsibility!

Kind of makes bikes and cookies look really really good, doesn’t it?
The scariest part about responsibility? When you screw up, and let it slip right through your fingers…


Closing:

Responsibility… it really does suck. Unfortunately, once you get past the age of braces and training bras, responsibility doesn’t go away. It can’t be avoided. Either someone makes us face it, or we suffer the consequences.

And still, adulthood has its perks. I mean, the shoes, the sex, the no parents anywhere telling you what to do… that’s pretty damn good.

Monday, January 21, 2013

Come and Go

Come and Go

Come and go we went,
A precious time was spent.
Come and go we went,
Cause staying was never meant.

Still I'm thankful to know,
That out of thousand and so,
Out of all that came and go,
I knew you not as a foe.

I will be forever grateful,
For days that has been fruitful,
Of sharing memories so beautiful,
That I will forever treasure,

Come and go we went,
To different places we are sent.
Come and go we went,
Till we meet on the other bent.



Mare, this was made from a hang over of our Les Mis date. 1 more week and again I'll miss someone badly on the floor. Haaaaay... We'll find a way to keep up with the chikas. Blind dates soon! hahaha.

Mga humayong Wave 23... Isa kayo sa inspirayon ng tulang ito... Ron, Deai, Ada, Noel, Katie. Miss ko na kayo!!!

PS. Cause change is constant. Come and go we went but all the memories shared stays. <3